The Door to True Freedom
with Tosha Silver
The world is filled with endless books and classes about ‘appreciating the positive’. But this is not your typical “Be grateful for the good stuff” course. This encompasses everything, including the most painful emotions. In this intensive deep-dive you’ll learn:
I’ve been teaching surrender and offering forever yet always sensed there was a missing piece. I prayed to know what it was. Then, out of the blue, Kyle Smith introduced me to a book on miracles from 2010 by Melodie Beattie. And there I unexpectedly read her unusual premise: practice gratitude for the hard stuff. Or more precisely, gratitude for the challenging EMOTIONS that loss or disappointments bring. (She herself had discovered the idea in an old text in a used bookstore).
The idea immediately captivated me.
I mean, gratitude for the most difficult emotions! How Plutonic can you get? As in, “Thank you god for this anger.” Or “Thank you for this fear, this worry, this grief.” Jealousy, alienation, hopelessness, all emotions have full-on Divine permission and are invited to the party. They usually just pass through and resolve as quickly as they come.
Within a few weeks of practicing, I felt like my life had been plugged into a hidden electrical socket as the lights came blazing on. I couldn’t believe the power. As I began to share my experiences on the Living OO Forum, many members started writing about a similar magic.
Without a doubt, I’ve found this to be one of the most liberating and joyful practices I’ve ever encountered. It dovetails perfectly with offering and surrender. While I could probably already write a book already about the inner and outer miracles that have come, let me give you a quick recent experience.
As a lot of you know, I’ve relocated with my partner Bodi to upstate NY last June. After thirty years in California I’d forgotten how intense winters can be. So a couple weeks ago while walking out to my car I hit a hidden stretch of black ice and WHAM! Flat on my tailbone, smashing my right wrist hard.
Lying there dazed and shocked, I could feel my wrist already swelling. And here’s where this all kicked in. The feelings of DAMN ARRGH F&*K! started to arise so I blessed and felt them, every bit. Thank you god for this pain, this frustration, and omg this anger! Thank you for this freakin injury, thank you for this ice patch, thank you for no yoga for a month, on and on. I am FURIOUS but thank you. All while still lying on the ice.
Soon enough, I could feel grace literally pouring into me like radiant golden light, a deep peace arriving even amidst the pain. In the end, it all turned out to be a sprain and not a break. But even more interesting was the influx of help. A friend gave me good chinese herbs. A busy chiropractor had a last minute cancel. And everywhere strangers have materialized out of nowhere to carry groceries, open doors, even pump gas, usually without my saying a word. Their kindness brought tears to my eyes. This ease and receptivity has felt completely due to this new tool.
A teacher I like named Adyashanti would speak about ‘stopping the argument with Reality’ but I sometimes couldn’t feel this fully. I realized for myself (and probably many people) radical gratitude was the key.
Now here’s the thing. This takes PRACTICE. It contradicts almost everything we’re taught about emotions and even spirituality. Some forum members mentioned they were scared to feel negativity for fear it would manifest. (I’ve actually found the experience to be the exact opposite). Full permission to feel, offer and bless solves a myriad of problems.
So I’m excited to have you join me on a deep-dive into all this. We’ll have live calls, Q and A, and practice sessions. By the final class this all may become second-nature for you as it has for me.
For the past 30 years, Tosha has taught people around the world practical ways to align with Inner Love. She is the author of Outrageous Openness, Change Me Prayers, and It’s Not Your Money. She lives in the Hudson Valley where she runs Living Outrageous Openness, an online forum that offers daily support to those who want to live these beautiful practices. For more information or to join click here.
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